QUESTION:
My goal is to not have to work my day job, so while I am thankful to have it, I see it as a failure. You are correct that I can work on my mindset around that. The job just drains me physically and emotionally, so the recuperation needed is more than just missing a day working on/in my business to pay the bills.
ANSWER:
From Dr. Shaunna:
I TRULY KNOW how you feel. I absolutely get it. It's a fine line between telling ya like it is and giving you the truth that will set you free 😃 ... and having compassion ☹️ 🫶 for your current situation/floor without allowing you to stay stuck there.
If focusing on the problem helped you get out of the problem, I would absolutely join ya. But it doesn't. If talking about what isn't working helped you to get things working, I'd encourage that, but it doesn't. If noticing and focusing on what you don't like (working your day job) helped you get what you do want (not working your day job), I'd encourage it ... but it does not.
The focus on what you don't want is the #1 reason you have what you don't want.
To which you (anyone) wants to reply.... well if I had what I wanted I could focus on what I wanted.
The key and the tremendous opportunity here is to be smack dab in the middle of what you don't want and FOCUS and ATTUNE to what you DO WANT ANYWAYS ... regardless of conditions. THAT IS THE GAME CHANGER!! 🥳🥳🥰🥰🎉🎉💖
Then you've got it! THEN you are untouchable. THEN you are free to be MASSIVELY SUCCESSFUL regardless of conditions because you KNOW that your success is not at all dependent on any one or anything.
It is an INSIDE JOB! 100% .... and then.... when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. And then people will say .. it is easy for you to be happy, you have a ton of clients and you are doing work you love and you don't have to work as a nurse. BUT YOU know YOU changed internally FIRST and THEN you got the success. You BECOME the SUCCESS vibrationally FIRST and THEN the success flows to you and massive ways as momentum gathers.
My words are just words. But when you experience this for yourself, you can't un-know this. That is worth more than the investment in the program. This is the BEST thing that could happen. Truly. You will realize the power rests with YOU.
BUT never look at doing what you need to do as a failure. Working your day job so you can feed your family is NOT a failure. It is an act of massive love. It is doing "whatever it takes" to become a six or seven figure health coach. I was the sole income earner for a family of 6 with bills to fulfill a medical practice that had to be paid no matter what that had me ask a lot from a health coaching practice and I didn't know if this was even possible. I'd never seen it done. But kids needed to be fed and clothed. Did I need to do other things and sell my dream home and downsize twice to buy me some runway to get lift off? Yes. Did I feel like a failure? Yes at the time. I'd trained for decades and could earn a great income if I just followed in line like everyone else. But I just could not stay in the medical system. It was sucking the life out of me. I get it. Truly I do. And part of what took me so long is that I was naturally (like anyone) focusing on what was not working and what I couldn't do with a 100 hour medical practice that left me fantasizing about suicide. I really could not see my way out.
BUT when I shifted focus ... and it did not happen overnight. When I started meditating to just take the edge off the extreme pain and it often wasn't for long. ... but slowly as I started to shift ... people., books, mentors, teachers, came into focus and I started to "shift floors" more and more of the time. And the next thing you know ... you look up and you realize you're there.
Almost none of our six figure health coaches know they got there before I do. I have to ask ... and we add it up. It is not like a checkered flag that happens or a truck that dumps off cash on your desk. You can and will not notice. Like your clients can not notice that they are now pain free, sleeping through the night and down 20 lbs. But it feels "normal" and "no big deal" ... because you are now on that NEW floor so it doesn't feel different and so people miss it.
But you did the right thing by asking here. The answers are in the numbers. But most of you in this group (90%) will look at your end client numbers like your clients look at the scale and use that to prematurely judge success or failure.
The truth is when you follow the proven path (which includes the essential step of getting to neutral lobby as soon as you notice you are in frustration, overwhelm etc. ) ... but also tracking those numbers. Ideally every week.
Every Friday ... Did I do 2 Call #1s this week?
(weekly accountability sheets are one thing that I know Sherri is one of the best at filling out and she does not like filling out sheets like that so I told her to reward herself with her weekly reward just for filling out that sheet. But this really helps. )
So did you 2 call #1s this week?
If not ... this is where you focus your attention. How do you book 2 Call #1s.
If you did... great. Did you book 2 call #2s this week?
If not, this is where we focus.
If yes, great.
And so on .... That is how we know where to focus your precious time and energy to optimize.
Ok.... I'll go through your numbers in the next comment.
But THIS IS WHAT SUCCESS LOOKS LIKE. This is what birthing your business looks like. 🥰🥰Most of you don't know what the process looks like. Imagine if you went into labour to give birth to your beautiful baby but did not know the process. You'd probably freak out at the first contraction and think things are going horribly wrong when things are right on track. And then of course, our resistance to the flow can make it more painful than it needs to be.
You are "crowning". Keep going. This baby is going to be/ IS BEAUTIFUL! (and it is totally okay to get a little help from the anesthetist /ie. nursing job to facilitate the process if you need to. No one is going to care about that when you are enjoying your beautiful baby. 🥰🥰🎉)